Voice Dynamic Newsletter

Men Are More Aware of the Power of the Voice

January 24, 2008

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I have spent the last week questioning why my customers as well as the subscribers to my newsletters consist of 70% men and only 30% women.  If you honestly look at the picture, we women often sound like ill-tuned violins (which, ladies, is one of the reasons men don't listen).  At least with the male voice that has had no training, we're not subjected to a squeaky, scratchy violin.  Admittedly, I'd much prefer a poorly tuned cello or bass.  

There is a program on my computer which allows me to see where visitors to my website are coming from.  And, it has been fascinating to note the percentage of men that link to Voice Dynamic because of the men-only websites they've been blogging.  (Ladies, I urge you not to seek out these sites...trust me, they are for men only!)  Of course my curiousity has taken me to these blogs or these sites because I want to know what is being said about me and about Voicing It! Those of you who read my newsletters faithfully might remember that I've mentioned a couple of their quotes in the past.   

[Incidentally, I found a new one this week from a gentleman in Quebec.  Pretty cool!  It was in French, so I had my son, Andrei, translate it for me and he said, "It seems you have some extremely satisfied Canadian customers, mom.  The guy is writing as if you paid him, saying that he stumbled upon this page with this voice expert and realized that YES, it is possible to sound the way he'd like to sound.  Further down the page he says that since his training with Voicing It!, he has found that a strong, resonant voice builds one's confidence and is helpful with meeting women."]   

What I don't understand is if men understand the value of a dynamic speaking voice, why haven't the women?  Ladies, 37% of the image you project is the sound of your speaking voice and I'm talking about what you hear on your answering machine -- you know, the sound that you don't recognize, don't like, and probably find embarrassing.  Another way to look at the statistics then is to accept the fact that 37% of the image you project you find embarrassing.  Now if any part of your visual image, which accounts for 55%, were embarrassing to you, would you not pursue change immediately?  

There are plenty of websites devoted to women, women's issues, women's image, juggling career and motherhood, how to look younger.  The list goes on and on.  And not one of them (to my knowledge) discusses the value of voice improvement. 

  • The value of learning to breathe properly and discovering that your neck or shoulders are no longer sore or tense by the end of the day. 
  • The value of being able to control and, in many cases, eliminate your stress.
  • The value of projecting to your children instead of yelling at them. 
  • The value of being able to control your nervousness in any form of public speaking. 
  • The value of having a wonderfully rich, warm, resonant speaking voice (which, with the right tone, can be quite sensual....) 
  • The value of sounding mature -- not too old, not too young -- ageless. 
  • The value of having a voice that will actually improve with age.  

The value of liking the sound of your speaking voice on your voicemail!   Yes, we women are better listeners.  And, while men may not be as good at listening, they are actually better at hearing which explains why all of those male websites, dealing with how to attract women, talk about the benefits of voice improvement just like the Canadian fellow who was advising others that women like a strong voice and that it bolsters your confidence.                

Merci, Monsieur Quebecqois!  You've got good ears!